by Aziza Uko
I often hear people make comments that indicate that because of age, height, weight, complexion, education, parental or social or economic status that a woman would find it difficult to get married. Eg. "I am 38 and on the big side...", "I have a Ph.D. so men would be afraid of me", "I am outspoken and confident, and my parents are rich, so... so, so", or "I have a son, so men would not want to marry me".
These beliefs are not true, they are planted by the enemy in the minds of believers to keep them down.
Yes, there will always be bigoted, inferior, prejudiced men and their families. But, there are countless men praying to God, night and day for a woman just like you.
I have seen men who married women who were HIV positive and the men were HIV negative. I have seen men, NIGERIAN men, (single and childless, never-been-married) marry women who had two or even more children out of wedlock and adopt those children. I have seen women who were morbidly obese get married multiple times. I have seen men cross the ocean in search of a woman who had a Ph.D. and was upper class in terms of financial status. What about countless women married to younger men?
The ultimate devil's accusation is that, "If only you were a virgin, you would be married by now." Well, to that, I have seen the customers of prostitutes marry them. I have seen men uproot a woman from her husband's house to marry her. I have seen men snatch a woman from their friend and marry her. I have also seen a prostitute move from a brothel to the church to wed a pastor and move into his house.
I want to encourage a child of the Almighty who may be suffering from wrong beliefs to stop putting a limitation on yourself. You are a daughter of Zion, a priest of the Most High God. You are a celebrity by default, a city on the Hill that cannot be hidden.
You are what you confess and believe. Begin to speak the truth of who you are to yourself and the universe. Wake up anytime - morning or night. Look at yourself in the mirror. It takes repetitive confession for the truth of who you are to sink into your very subconscious. You need to get up and chase out every single iota of a lie of the enemy (which is anything contrary to God's Word in your life) that is planted in your mind.
Say to yourself:
"Aziza, you are a child of a Lion. A child of a King. Your Father is the Everlasting God. You have dominion over the earth and the devil and all his works. Aziza, you are a city on a hill that cannot be hidden. You are the beloved daughter of the Most High God, the King of Heaven, the King of Glory. You are the salt of the earth, and the light of the world. Aziza, shine. Shine! Shine! The whole world must see your light! Aziza, you are sought after by the cream of the earth. Presidents and kings want to have audience with you. Aziza, you are an embodiment of virtue and of grace, and of favour, and wisdom. Everywhere you go, you bring tidings of the good news of the Gosple of Jesus Christ. Aziza, you are treasured. You are lifted. You are glorified with your Father. Aziza, you have a sound mind..." (Just keep going with the truth of who you are. Deuteronomy 28:1-14 is a good reference for the bountiful blessings that God has released to you as his beloved apple of his eye.)"
As you speak it, so you will see it come to pass.
(c) 2013, Aziza Uko. This work is the original work of the author and copyrighted. It may not be reproduced in part or in whole in any form without the permission of the author and proper acknowledgement.