Thursday, October 3, 2013


by Aziza Uko

Read the first part of this 4-part series HERE and the 2nd part HERE and the 3rd part HERE


A commonly misquoted Biblical writing that makes people believe that God has set the time for their marriage, job, children is one of the writings attributed to King Solomon.(Read: Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, 10-11).
Those verses don’t in anyway say that God sets a time for people to get married. It just uses beautiful poetry to make observations of the seasons in life. In fact, from verses 1 to 8, God is not mentioned. Then there is the verse that people hang unto to say that God sets the time for a person to get her heart’s desires.
“10 I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it. 11 He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.”

These verses don't say that God fixes a time for you to get married or to have a baby or to get a job. Bible verses are best read as they are. The problems people have is instead of accepting the Word as written, they jump into interpretation without first understanding his word.

“God makes ALL things beautiful at HIS TIME.” The key words are 'God', 'all things', 'his time'. This is quoted whenever someone gets a delayed miracle. But the question is, has there ever been a time or a situation where ALL THINGS (ALL THINGS means just that - ALL THINGS,) are beautiful? If the Bible had said 'all things concerning a matter, or concerning a man, or concerning a wedding, or concerning a pregnancy' then, it would possibly apply to the recipient of a delayed blessing. No matter the testimony somebody has, never have ALL THINGS been beautiful. The simple interpretation of that verse is that “At God's own time, He will make all things beautiful.”

Don't forget that the Bible prophesies of a day when he will remove pain and suffering from the earth. No more sin. There will be no more death, no more sickness, no more weeping. No more ugliness on this earth. “3 And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God. 4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.” (Read: Revelation 21:1-4)

Some parts of King Solomon’s writing, even in the said chapter, are contrary to what God says in the rest of the Bible. Bible scholars believe that King Solomon was a fallen man when he wrote this Book and that many of his “under the sun” and “all is vanity” proclamations are out-rightly false, some are partially true. E.g. King Solomon said in that chapter that man and beast are equal. “19 For that which befalleth the sons of men befalleth beasts; even one thing befalleth them: as the one dieth, so dieth the other; yea, they have all one breath; so that a man hath no preeminence above a beast: for all is vanity.“ (Read: verse 19)

Is man and beast equal? By no means. Man was made in the image and likeness of God and a little lower than heavenly beings. (Read: Genesis 1:27, Psalm 8:5) As a matter of fact, when man fell, God said we were now like him. Isn’t that amazing, upon the fall of man, not before, God said, “And the LORD God said, BEHOLD, THE MAN IS BECOME AS ONE OF US, to know good and evil: and now, lest he put forth his hand, and take also of the tree of life, and eat, and live for ever.” (Genesis 3:22)

This is the danger of the stand-alone verse. Any Bible verse that stands alone i.e. there is no other Bible verse that supports this same verse is shaky. This is the Word of God, “In the mouth of two or three witnesses shall every word be established.” (Read: Deuteronomy 17:6, Matthew 18:16, 2 Corinthians 13:1)

Is Your Delayed Marriage God’s Doing?

Let us dwell on marriage a bit.

The first marriage: once God identified the need, he set about getting a helpmeet for Adam and God did not rest till Adam identified his helpmeet and when that happened there was an immediate joining. (Read: Genesis 2:18 -25) #NoDelays

The first ever marriage prayer ever prayed, God answered immediately. It was prayed by the servant of Abraham on a hunt for a wife for Isaac. Rebekkah emerged, she met the criteria, she agreed to follow him immediately. Immediately Isaac met her, they married. (Read: Genesis 24) #NoDelays

Ruth: Upon obedience to her mother-in-law, she got proposed married to by Boaz in the morning with a promise for her to be married by sun-down. Under 24 hours she was married. (Read: Ruth 3, 4; Read the entire Book of Ruth) #NoDelays

God looked at Adam and said “it is not good for man to be alone” and the solution that came to that problem was marriage. Which means it is good for a man/woman to be married. “Marriage is honourable in all”, the Bible says. God even promises favour to a man who gets married to motivate  men to get married. So, why would God deny his child who desires to marry the fulfillment of her hearts desires? (Read: Genesis 2:18, Hebrew 13:4, Proverbs 18:22)

Your Heavenly Father knows we (Africans) live in a societies that gives honour and respect to married women over single women (It is not right, but that is the way it is), why would he decide to take his daughters through the pain and torture of staying single for decades after she began to desire to get married? Why would he move his precious apples of his eye from heartbreak to heartbreak in wait for 'his time'? How does a woman getting married for the first time when she has passed menopause glorify God? How does your singleness fit into his plan? Why would his plan include decades of unwanted loneliness and burning with unmet passion (or attempts to fulfill that passion outside marriage)?

Being single is not a curse. So, don't misquote me. If you are single and have no desire to marry, that is fine. You are a blessed daughter of Zion whether you are married or not. I am referring to a single lady who has the desire to marry. 

Within a reasonable time, she should receive several suitors, meet her right spouse, make a right choice with the help of the Holy Spirit, and get married.

God clearly says it nothing evil, no sickness, no temptation comes from him.

This is the last of a 4-part series

(c) 2013, Aziza Uko. This work is the original work of the author and copyrighted. It may not be reproduced in part or in whole in any form without the permission of the author and proper acknowledgement.

1 comment:

  1. am a daughter of Zion who is believing and trusting God, i knw he will not cut off my expectations.