Tuesday, July 26, 2011


by Aziza Uko

MANY SINGLE PEOPLE have been told how important it is to find sexual satisfaction in marriage. They have been told that sexual frustrations can lead to unfaithfulness in marriage and broken homes. These are both true.

But the problem is that for Christians committed to living a life free of sexual sin, the anxieties of getting married to someone and then discovering that they are not sexually in sync lead them to consider disobeying God and trying out sex before marriage just to be sure. That’s a big mistake and a terrible trap.

If you are not married, you have not had the chance to cultivate a deep and sincere sexual relationship with another person. And till you are married, you never will. Nothing is like marriage. No relationship you will ever enter into with the opposite sex is like marriage. Some people overrate cheap premarital sexual encounter and use those experiences to form wrong opinions about sex.

Ignorance is the number one reason why people experience sexual frustration. Before you get married, get the right teaching on sex. Many pastors have written books addressing the matter exclusively. Meet your pastor and ask questions. You can ask your parents and older couples questions. You will be obliged with answers. Pre-marital counseling courses address the issue of sex extensively with Biblical truth and most questions are answered. Make sure that your fiancé acquires the same knowledge.

There is no commandment God gave to us that isn’t for our good. No concern should be strong enough for you to disobey God.

Sexual sin is a very terrible thing to do to yourself. Very terrible, in fact! The devil has deceived people to take sex lightly. It is a serious matter.

It’s the only sin that is against your very body. The Holy Spirit departs from you and become empty, open to attack. You lose yourself, your possessions and position when you indulge in sexual sin. Please don’t ever take sexual sin lightly or try to negotiate it, you are negotiating your future away. Sexual sin is the leading cause of poverty, devastation, untimely death, lost of reputation, and sickness. All other sins you are commanded to not do, fornication you are commanded to “flee”.

Run, young man/young woman, run for your life.

(c) 2011, Aziza Uko. This work is the original work of the author and copyrighted. It may not be reproduced in part or in whole in any form without the permission of the author and proper acknowledgement. 

1 comment:

  1. This is a great article. I am so glad someone is bringing light on these myths. I wholeheartedly believe that as Christians we can have better intimacy and fun in our marriages than anyone else. Thanks for this post! sexual satisfaction in marriage