Friday, July 29, 2011


by Aziza Uko

Yesterday, I posted a message on how to pray a marriage prayer. It is necessary to also post a message on how NOT TO PRAY a marriage prayer because our Christian space has been invaded with so many wrong practices in prayer. These are general principles of prayer but since the message is on marriage, I may use marriage illustrations.

First, I know a lot of exercises have been invented in the area of prayer in Christianity so much that a lot of unlearning has got to take place. If we agree as Christians that the Bible is the only authority and that Jesus is our only example, it will be very easy for us to establish right teaching. No matter how respected a man is, anointed, or followed, if he teaches something outside what the Bible teaches or contrary to what the Bible teaches, or gives a testimony or sets an example that is not in the Bible, we should follow Jesus and the Bible and leave the man’s ideas for him. Agreed? Okay.

What is prayer? Prayer is communication with our Heavenly Father.

Do not engage in vain repetitions. That is what the heathens do hoping that their God will hear them by their constant repetition. Matthew 6: 7 – 8. So repeating your request over and over again, dancing around, and clapping your hands, screaming at the top of your voice, swinging your head from side to side vigorously, upsetting everyone around you is not the way to pray. Matthew 6:6 “But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.”

Prayer points are guidelines not words to be repeated over and over again verbatim in some crazy chant. That’s how occultists pray. Don’t pray like that, please. Just have a gentle and passionate conversation with your Heavenly Father, tell him how you feel about Him and what you want from Him. He is not far away from you. You don’t have to shout to be heard. Pray like Jesus prayed, calm, deliberate, confident that His father heard Him always.

You don’t need to “storm the gates of Heaven”. There is no such thing in the scripture. There is no such thing as violent prayers or dangerous prayers. Jesus taught us how to pray, please follow His guidelines.

Prayer is not something you do “against” something or somebody. Prayer is communication with your Heavenly Father who told you to come boldly to the throne and grace and obtain mercy. No need to storm the gates of Heaven, push your way through. No such thing. “Come boldly to the Throne.” How do you approach a King, do you jump around, knobbing your head, chanting the same word over and over again? No. You walk down with reverence. How does a child of a King approach him? He moves with confidence that Daddy will hear me and give me what I want. How does a child ask his father for something? He asks with faith because he knows that his father will do what he wants. He doesn’t pester his father, cry and fall down and roll around the floor. No! He just says, “Daddy, please bring back the book you promised me. Daddy, thank you. Daddy, I love you.” This is why good dads do everything they can to keep their word to their children. You see this theme repeated over and over again in Hollywood movies. That’s how your Heavenly Father is to you. Jesus said it, that if we who are evil know how to give good gifts to our children how much more our Heavenly Father. It’s powerful and amazing! Matthew 7:7-11

Don’t pray with desperation. God doesn’t respond to your desperation. He responds to your faith.

Don’t speak to any being except your Heavenly Father. Don’t speak to people “Anybody withholding my blessings.” NO! Nobody is withholding your blessings by the way. No human being has such power to withhold the blessings of a child of the Most High God. “Satan, I rebuke you.” No! Which part of your Heavenly Father is Satan? “Father, I bind the demons resisting my marriage.” No! Your Heavenly Father doesn’t sit with demons on His throne. I have good news, no demon is resisting your marriage. No demon is stealing your blessings. Those are ideas from hell. How can a demon step in and stop God from blessing His precious child? It’s impossible. You don’t resist the devil in prayer. The war is not one of prayer. That’s why there is no such thing as “warfare prayers”. Are you fighting with God? Communication with the devil, witches, demons, enemies, or evil uncles is not prayer. Prayer is communication with your Heavenly Father.

[Forget the devil! He is defeated. Jesus messed him up real bad. He is a toothless, powerless, shamed, condemned criminal. He is a bastard, a vagabond nonsense full-of-rubbish person just moving about the earth without purpose. He has no say whatsoever in your life or your affairs. Jesus put him right where he belongs, under YOUR FEET!]

John 16: 26 and 27: At that day ye shall ask in my name: and I say not unto you, that I will pray the Father for you: 27 For the Father himself loveth you, because ye have loved me, and have believed that I came out from God.

See how Jesus prayed and even taught us to pray. Wonderful example of how to approach your Heavenly Father. Read John 17. Beautiful prayer. No stress. No use of strength to pray. No pressure to receive the answer. Total confidence in His Father, our Father. Before Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead in John 11, He prayed. “Then they took away the stone from the place where the dead was laid. And Jesus lifted up his eyes, and said, Father, I thank thee that thou hast heard me. And I knew that thou hearest me always: but because of the people which stand by I said it, that they may believe that thou hast sent me.” Then he said with a loud voice, “Lazarus, come forth.” The command to Lazarus was not part of his prayer. When he said his prayer he did not shout or say it with a loud voice. He lifted up His eyes and said Father, I thank you because you have heard me. Powerful!

Let Jesus be our perfect example. The LORD’s prayer is the ultimate prayer guide. God always hears you. God does not deliberately withhold anything that we need that He has from us. God does not enjoy watching you suffer. God does not delight in your pain. God loves you and wants you to be happy. “Ask that you may receive that your joy may be full.” Don’t be anxious for anything, but in prayer and supplication commit them to your Heavenly Father. If you ask you receive. Believe God’s word. Come to Him in confidence. You don’t need to increase your faith. In the Bible people asked Jesus to increase their faith, what did He tell them? If you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain “be thou removed” and you will see what you say. Nothing shall be impossible for you. All you need is a faith as small as a mustard seed. Matthew 17:20

Let’s read the Bible from a blank sheet. Unlearn all you have learnt and read the Bible again. You will discover wonderful things.

So, very important:

1. No back-to-sender prayers, curse breaking, cancelling of ordinances, binding of any demons or powers, no talking to evil birds or trees, no sending out thunder or fire to destroy anything. Stop it.
2. Don’t speak to anybody but your Heavenly Father. Don’t speak to demons or people or devils.
3. Don’t do vain repetitions. Ask once, believe that you have received, thank Him and be expectant. Be like Jesus. You are operating in His realm.
4. Don’t ask for vengeance from God. Don’t remind Him that vengeance is His own. He knows His job. Pray for your enemies the way Jesus showed you – “Father, forgive them.” Pray for their salvation that they may see the light that you have seen and come to repentance. Bless them and ask God to grant their hearts desires, that He should have mercy on them and lead them into His peace. That’s a true Christian prayer.
5. Find out what the Word of God says about your situation and pray accordingly. God will not change His Word because of your prayer.
6. Spend time in thanksgiving and praise. Tell Him how you feel about Him. Let Him know that you love Him so much. It’s just you and Him in the room. He is right there sitting with you because when you give thanks and praise you enter into the Throne room of our King. Unleash your heart to Him. Then thank and praise Him again.
7. Have confidence in God, confidence that He hears you. Don’t be afraid. Nothing can harm you. Nothing can steal your blessings. Nothing can delay your blessings. Your time is now. Believe. Just believe.

Our God is good, He is your Father, He loves you so much, more than anything else in the whole world! Never forget that.

(c) 2011, Aziza Uko. This work is the original work of the author and copyrighted. It may not be reproduced in part or in whole in any form without the permission of the author and proper acknowledgement.

1 comment:

  1. You said..Don’t do vain repetitions. Ask once, believe that you have received, thank Him and be expectant. Be like Jesus. You are operating in His realm.

    But what do you say about Jesus' prayer in the garden of Gethsemane? Did Jesus pray just one time?

    Matthew 26:36-56

    King James Version (KJV)

    36 Then cometh Jesus with them unto a place called Gethsemane, and saith unto the disciples, Sit ye here, while I go and pray yonder.

    37 And he took with him Peter and the two sons of Zebedee, and began to be sorrowful and very heavy.

    38 Then saith he unto them, My soul is exceeding sorrowful, even unto death: tarry ye here, and watch with me.

    39 And he went a little farther, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.

    40 And he cometh unto the disciples, and findeth them asleep, and saith unto Peter, What, could ye not watch with me one hour?

    41 Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.

    42 He went away again the second time, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if this cup may not pass away from me, except I drink it, thy will be done.

    43 And he came and found them asleep again: for their eyes were heavy.

    44 And he left them, and went away again, and prayed the third time, saying the same words.