Thursday, August 27, 2015


I read an update on an on-going political scandal in Nigeria on Monday and I was so sad. In the midst of the scandal is this "husband snatching" allegation against one of the players. I happen to know the husband and wife in the story.

The husband that is being snatched, I would say, is one of my mentors when I started by career. He picked an interest in me when I first joined banking. I was to write a story about him for our house magazine. So, I got to spend time interviewing him. I turned out to be the one interviewed.

It was he who bought for me my first wealth creation books - Rich Dad, Poor Dad and Richest Man in Babylon. I still have the books, with his signature inscribed and his note telling me that his prays that my children would call me Rich Mum. It was he who followed up on me and made sure I read them and began to tailor my life towards a better financial future.

It was he who took out a weekend to take me round Ajah, VGC, Lekki Phase 1 in the early 2000s to show me how he managed to build wealth on a banker's salary. He took me to the site of his first house and told me how he built it and how much he spent. He told me how he sold the house and invested the money in stocks and bonds in the United States. He showed me his other properties in VGC, explaining how he got each. Then, he showed me plots in Lekki Phase 1 and how he got each. He was at the time raising money to develop one of them.

That journey opened my eyes to what was possible. He kept encouraging me not to blow my money on frivolities like vacations abroad, jewelry, clothes, and socials. But to invest in assets that grow over time.

It was he who advised me not to rush into buying a car and to make sure I always lived below my means. He insisted that if I ever took a loan, it should be towards buying a real asset. He was living in a rented duplex in Ikoyi. He explained how the rental income from his properties could afford him a place in Ikoyi, close to his work place, affording him an improved quality of life.

He was a "big boy" by every standard, yet you wouldn't catch him dead with a designer wear of any kind. If it hadn't been for his official car, one would not know he was one of the top managers in the bank.

 One day, he invited me to pick up a book he had promised to buy me from his house. Apparently, he had to use Amazon to buy the book and ship it to Nigeria. It wasn't the time of Mastercard and Visa in Nigeria. We only had Valucard back then and it was a Naira card. I left his house in shock. Total shock!

 First, the first thing that hit me was stench. A strong stench of urine as I walked into the living room. The place was in disarray as they had four little girls. Two were twins. One was disabled. The disabled child was not properly minded. She sat anywhere and urinated on herself and from what I saw, nobody really cared if she was cleaned proper or not. The other children looked so untidy. The twins came to greet me and I carried them, they were both smelling of urine. Like they hadn't been bathed and they still wet their bed. They were about 3-4 years.

When he came down, he took me to his home office at the back of the house and gave me the book, Think Like A Tycoon. As I was leaving, I overheard a woman, yelling at someone. Perhaps a driver, I don't know. But, she was screaming at the top of her voice. From what she was saying, I deduced she was the madam of the house. Later, I found out that that was the wife's 'normal' voice. That she yelled that way to even her husband, in the presence of their staff.

This is a man, known in the workplace as a devote husband. A disciplined person who wasn't a skirt chaser. I haven't had close contact with him since 2008. Only an email, once in a while.

 Fast forward to 2011, I read he filed for divorce from his wife and the divorce was granted in 2012. And in 2015, he is the husband that is being "snatched" in a news report.

Now, I have not heard from any party in this marriage. He never discussed his wife with me. I have never had a conversation with his wife, apart from greeting her at an office party. I am not siding anybody on this matter. But, this I can say for sure. As I was taught by my mother:

 1. Men don't like coming home to an untidy house. Always make your home clean and well arranged and use room fragrance to make your home a pleasant place to stay in.

 2. Men don't like seeing their children unkempt. Teach your children how to stay clean. Make them take baths when they come home from playing outside. Braid your daughters hair and make them look cute.

 3. Men don't like untidy wives. Don't let taking care of children make you forget yourself. Don't go round the house smelling like your baby lotion and baby oil. If breastmilk spills on your blouse, change it. Because after some time, it smells bad. Don't let the baby pee on you, if it happens, clean it up real good. Make sure you retain your distinct feminine scent.

 4. Always make sure there is food in your house. Well cooked, tasty food. Don't let your husband or children go hungry. No matter what happens, always have something they can eat at home. Take care of your children's nutrition. Don't let them eat outside the house.

5. Men don't like being disrespected by their wives. Do not raise your voice on your husband, especially, in the presence of 3rd parties. If you are upset with him, do it in private where nobody can hear or see you. Now, there is a supposed feminist movement circling around the Nigerian internet that questions why women must play their traditional roles in their homes. I often see women online celebrating their inability or unwillingness to cook. I find this trend bizarre. But, this is what I wish to advise - from the bottom of my heart.

Please, sister, take these 5 advise above seriously. I am not saying "carry being a good wife on your head" that you don't even enjoy your life. No. I am saying note these things and work on them. Over time, they become your nature. If you can't cook. Pick an interest in cooking. It is far far cheaper to cook your own food at home.

I heard 3 litres of soup is sold at N6,000. N6,000 can go a long way if you cook at home. You can control the kind of chemicals, packaged as spices, that are put in your food. It is more nutritious to cook your own food. You can make sure you use fresh vegetables, meat, etc. Your children will be healthier and happier if their mother cooks for them.

 Cooking is not as difficult or stressful as some people may want you to believe. It can be fun. You don't have to become a chef in one day. Start from little things and gradually learn. Read up on the internet - tips, recipes, how to treat certain condiments. Practice makes perfect.

 It is not slavery to serve your family. It is an honour and privilege. Keep your home clean. Let your floors and surfaces be cleaned every day. If you have little children train your maids to watch them and clean them up well. Always have some wipes around and have urine washed off the floor properly.

Keep detergent and bleach handy - just ordinary wiping, doesn't remove the smell of body waste. Let baby vomit and other wastes be properly cleaned.

Get some air freshener for your homes. Prices range from N200 to N15,000. There is something for everyone.

NB - I am not saying that there are no foolish men out there who are irresponsible and could abandon their wives and children for no reason. I am not holding brief for anybody. Neither am I saying that a man who leaves his marriage has justification if the above things are not in place.

By no means. I am just saying that sometimes, error of omission can create circumstances that heat up marital relations and push things to a place of no remedy.

Copyright 2015 - Aziza Uko Douglas (This article was first shared on a Christian women's forum on Facebook on August 27, 2015)

Tuesday, November 5, 2013


by Aziza Uko

I often hear people make comments that indicate that because of age, height, weight, complexion, education, parental or social or economic status that a woman would find it difficult to get married. Eg. "I am 38 and on the big side...", "I have a Ph.D. so men would be afraid of me", "I am outspoken and confident, and my parents are rich, so... so, so", or "I have a son, so men would not want to marry me".

These beliefs are not true, they are planted by the enemy in the minds of believers to keep them down.

Yes, there will always be bigoted, inferior, prejudiced men and their families. But, there are countless men praying to God, night and day for a woman just like you.

I have seen men who married women who were HIV positive and the men were HIV negative. I have seen men, NIGERIAN men, (single and childless, never-been-married) marry women who had two or even more children out of wedlock and adopt those children. I have seen women who were morbidly obese get married multiple times. I have seen men cross the ocean in search of a woman who had a Ph.D. and was upper class in terms of financial status. What about countless women married to younger men?

The ultimate devil's accusation is that, "If only you were a virgin, you would be married by now." Well, to that, I have seen the customers of prostitutes marry them. I have seen men uproot a woman from her husband's house to marry her. I have seen men snatch a woman from their friend and marry her. I have also seen a prostitute move from a brothel to the church to wed a pastor and move into his house.

I want to encourage a child of the Almighty who may be suffering from wrong beliefs to stop putting a limitation on yourself. You are a daughter of Zion, a priest of the Most High God. You are a celebrity by default, a city on the Hill that cannot be hidden.

You are what you confess and believe. Begin to speak the truth of who you are to yourself and the universe. Wake up anytime - morning or night. Look at yourself in the mirror. It takes repetitive confession for the truth of who you are to sink into your very subconscious. You need to get up and chase out every single iota of a lie of the enemy (which is anything contrary to God's Word in your life) that is planted in your mind.

Say to yourself:

"Aziza, you are a child of a Lion. A child of a King. Your Father is the Everlasting God. You have dominion over the earth and the devil and all his works. Aziza, you are a city on a hill that cannot be hidden. You are the beloved daughter of the Most High God, the King of Heaven, the King of Glory. You are the salt of the earth, and the light of the world. Aziza, shine. Shine! Shine! The whole world must see your light! Aziza, you are sought after by the cream of the earth. Presidents and kings want to have audience with you. Aziza, you are an embodiment of virtue and of grace, and of favour, and wisdom. Everywhere you go, you bring tidings of the good news of the Gosple of Jesus Christ. Aziza, you are treasured. You are lifted. You are glorified with your Father. Aziza, you have a sound mind..." (Just keep going with the truth of who you are. Deuteronomy 28:1-14 is a good reference for the bountiful blessings that God has released to you as his beloved apple of his eye.)"

As you speak it, so you will see it come to pass.
(c) 2013, Aziza Uko. This work is the original work of the author and copyrighted. It may not be reproduced in part or in whole in any form without the permission of the author and proper acknowledgement. 

Friday, November 1, 2013


by Aziza Uko

Jesus taught us to seek forgiveness from those who hold grudges against us (not just those people we offend). The Bible teaches that we should be at peace with all men. Christians should begin to make moves to establish peace with the people who hold grudges against them. Whoever does this begins to win his or her spiritual warfare and a burden is lifted off her and placed where it belongs, on Jesus Christ! And Jesus is able, more than willing, to mess up our enemies.

Where Jesus Christ instructed that we go seek forgiveness from those who BEAR GRUDGES against us:

Matthew 5:23-24 (NIV)
23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.

Where the Bible says we should make every effort to be at peace with all people.

Hebrew 12:14 (NIV)
Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.

Where the Bible lets us know that peace is a part of the FULL amour of God which we use to overcome the enemy in our spiritual warfare.

Ephesians 6:10-18 (NIV)

10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

Where the Bible makes it clear that we have to forgive everyone who offends us so that our own sins would be forgiven:

The LORD's Prayer (You may read it in full)
Matthew 6:12 (ISV)
... and forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who have sinned against us.

Treating our enemies with kindness:
Romans 12:20
On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head."

God deals with our enemies:
2 Thessalonians 1:6-7 (NIV)
6 God is just: He will pay back trouble to those who trouble you 7 and give relief to you who are troubled, and to us as well.

Christians live by the Law of Jesus Christ and not the Law of Moses. The Law of Moses teaches retaliation and hating of enemies. Jesus Christ commands that his followers love their enemies, pray for their enemies, do good to those who do evil to them, and turn the other cheek.

The writers of the Book of Psalms were living under the Law of Moses, so they wrote what they wrote and prayed the way they prayed. But Christians live under the Law of Jesus Christ and an-eye-for-an-e
ye is not the Law of Jesus Christ.

Understandably, this is a hard teaching. Even Jesus Christ acknowledged that his teaching will be hard to accept. Nobody says it is easy, but that is the Word and it is the responsibility of Christian teachers to teach what Jesus taught and not what followers want to hear.

Even if you pick on one verse and try to argue it out with an interpretation that allows you to disobey God (eg the verse on settling with someone who holds a grudge against you), you can't escape the teaching of Jesus Christ on forgiveness, doing good to those who do you evil, returning good for evil, turning the other cheek, and loving and praying for your enemies. It is a body of teaching and not just one verse.

Sadly, many Christian leaders, especially in Nigeria, have put aside the teaching of Jesus Christ on this subject and articulated a massive disobedience to the Word of God by teaching their members to return 'fire for fire', back-to-sender, 'dangerous' prayers, and all what not. It is so sad because by so doing, they rob the church of the manifestation of its true power.

This is manifested when Christians tend to attack the right teaching on forgiveness, even when you present the very words of Jesus Christ to them, they still find it hard to accept that Christianity is about forgiveness.

Our power is limited when we walk in disobedience to God. Our power is limited when we try to do God's job. When we stop trying to help ourselves, and let go to God 100%, that is when we see the full glory of God in our lives. Heaven doesn't help those who help themselves, heaven helps those who trust in the King of Heaven 100%, those who know that their help, all of their help comes from the Throne of Grace.

So, no matter how unpopular the Word (sadly) is among Christians today, the Word will not change. I, Aziza Uko-Douglas, will not ever change the Word to suit public opinion. I am not and will never be ashamed of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

Is it easy to do? Not at all. But, have I done it before. Yes. Did it hurt as I did it? Of course! Did my flesh resist it? Of course. Did the devil tell me I was reducing myself to apologise to people who wrecked my home, tried to kill (and were still trying), stole my money, tried to terminate my career, backstabbed me and more? Of course, he did.

But, thank God (and may he forever continue to bless him) for the man God brought into my life to lead me back onto the right path. It is not easy. But let me share what the Holy Spirit revealed to me, as I forgave everyone but one person.

This one person (not romantic) was someone I invested so much in, I spent over N3 million developing his career, even risking my own career for him. He maliciously walked out on my contract with him, owed me money and refused to pay and began to spread nasty rumours about me. I was pained, to say the least.

I forgave everyone else and reached out to them. But, I forgave him and did not reach out to him. Then one night, the Holy Spirit continually pushed his matter before me when I was praying. I tried to ignore it, he asked me to consider my future and all the great things I desire and imagine if holding out on this person who obviously didn't have bright future was worth not actualising my glorious destiny. Immediately, I repented. I reached for my phone and sent him a text asking him to forgive me because I am human and I am sure I must have offended him one way or more. He replied that all was well and I should pray for him. We have met a couple of times since.

Within 6 months, I recorded testimonies that continue to shake people who hear them. I met my husband, I began a new walk with God, I started a new career as a journalist, within 2 months, I was interviewing the President of my own country (the ultimate booking for a journalist) - no lobbying, nothing. One evening a call came that Mr President is ready to take your questions... I used to spend my own money travelling abroad, these days, I fly all expense paid by other people around the world. When I had my youngest child, the doctors thought I was not 'human' because by all medical accounts, my BP was out of this world (some of the equipment were not built to take my BP reading) I was supposed to be either dead or in coma/stroke but I was conscious, sitting, talking to them, even cracking jokes with them. All the nurses kept saying that everytime they see me, they see a miracle...

My life before I decided to accept God's Word as it was given and the life after is totally different. And I believe that by that singular act of obedience, I rewrote my story.

And guess what, God has not failed on doing His own work - which is to protect me, defend me, and take vengeance on my enemies. My duty is to forgive and do good to them, pray for their salvation, and turn the other cheek. God's job is to make sure they don't hurt me and dispense His righteous and speedy judgement on them. He is faithful.

All of this happened because someone insisted on not following the bandwagon and teaching the truth of the Gospel of Jesus Christ and he led me to that place where I said, "Lord, I will do whatever you said I should do, where ever it may lead."

My prayer is that all of God's children will get to such a place. 

(c) 2013, Aziza Uko. This work is the original work of the author and copyrighted. It may not be reproduced in part or in whole in any form without the permission of the author and proper acknowledgement.

Thursday, October 3, 2013


by Aziza Uko

Read the first part of this 4-part series HERE and the 2nd part HERE and the 3rd part HERE


A commonly misquoted Biblical writing that makes people believe that God has set the time for their marriage, job, children is one of the writings attributed to King Solomon.(Read: Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, 10-11).
Those verses don’t in anyway say that God sets a time for people to get married. It just uses beautiful poetry to make observations of the seasons in life. In fact, from verses 1 to 8, God is not mentioned. Then there is the verse that people hang unto to say that God sets the time for a person to get her heart’s desires.
“10 I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it. 11 He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.”

These verses don't say that God fixes a time for you to get married or to have a baby or to get a job. Bible verses are best read as they are. The problems people have is instead of accepting the Word as written, they jump into interpretation without first understanding his word.

“God makes ALL things beautiful at HIS TIME.” The key words are 'God', 'all things', 'his time'. This is quoted whenever someone gets a delayed miracle. But the question is, has there ever been a time or a situation where ALL THINGS (ALL THINGS means just that - ALL THINGS,) are beautiful? If the Bible had said 'all things concerning a matter, or concerning a man, or concerning a wedding, or concerning a pregnancy' then, it would possibly apply to the recipient of a delayed blessing. No matter the testimony somebody has, never have ALL THINGS been beautiful. The simple interpretation of that verse is that “At God's own time, He will make all things beautiful.”

Don't forget that the Bible prophesies of a day when he will remove pain and suffering from the earth. No more sin. There will be no more death, no more sickness, no more weeping. No more ugliness on this earth. “3 And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God. 4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.” (Read: Revelation 21:1-4)

Some parts of King Solomon’s writing, even in the said chapter, are contrary to what God says in the rest of the Bible. Bible scholars believe that King Solomon was a fallen man when he wrote this Book and that many of his “under the sun” and “all is vanity” proclamations are out-rightly false, some are partially true. E.g. King Solomon said in that chapter that man and beast are equal. “19 For that which befalleth the sons of men befalleth beasts; even one thing befalleth them: as the one dieth, so dieth the other; yea, they have all one breath; so that a man hath no preeminence above a beast: for all is vanity.“ (Read: verse 19)

Is man and beast equal? By no means. Man was made in the image and likeness of God and a little lower than heavenly beings. (Read: Genesis 1:27, Psalm 8:5) As a matter of fact, when man fell, God said we were now like him. Isn’t that amazing, upon the fall of man, not before, God said, “And the LORD God said, BEHOLD, THE MAN IS BECOME AS ONE OF US, to know good and evil: and now, lest he put forth his hand, and take also of the tree of life, and eat, and live for ever.” (Genesis 3:22)

This is the danger of the stand-alone verse. Any Bible verse that stands alone i.e. there is no other Bible verse that supports this same verse is shaky. This is the Word of God, “In the mouth of two or three witnesses shall every word be established.” (Read: Deuteronomy 17:6, Matthew 18:16, 2 Corinthians 13:1)

Is Your Delayed Marriage God’s Doing?

Let us dwell on marriage a bit.

The first marriage: once God identified the need, he set about getting a helpmeet for Adam and God did not rest till Adam identified his helpmeet and when that happened there was an immediate joining. (Read: Genesis 2:18 -25) #NoDelays

The first ever marriage prayer ever prayed, God answered immediately. It was prayed by the servant of Abraham on a hunt for a wife for Isaac. Rebekkah emerged, she met the criteria, she agreed to follow him immediately. Immediately Isaac met her, they married. (Read: Genesis 24) #NoDelays

Ruth: Upon obedience to her mother-in-law, she got proposed married to by Boaz in the morning with a promise for her to be married by sun-down. Under 24 hours she was married. (Read: Ruth 3, 4; Read the entire Book of Ruth) #NoDelays

God looked at Adam and said “it is not good for man to be alone” and the solution that came to that problem was marriage. Which means it is good for a man/woman to be married. “Marriage is honourable in all”, the Bible says. God even promises favour to a man who gets married to motivate  men to get married. So, why would God deny his child who desires to marry the fulfillment of her hearts desires? (Read: Genesis 2:18, Hebrew 13:4, Proverbs 18:22)

Your Heavenly Father knows we (Africans) live in a societies that gives honour and respect to married women over single women (It is not right, but that is the way it is), why would he decide to take his daughters through the pain and torture of staying single for decades after she began to desire to get married? Why would he move his precious apples of his eye from heartbreak to heartbreak in wait for 'his time'? How does a woman getting married for the first time when she has passed menopause glorify God? How does your singleness fit into his plan? Why would his plan include decades of unwanted loneliness and burning with unmet passion (or attempts to fulfill that passion outside marriage)?

Being single is not a curse. So, don't misquote me. If you are single and have no desire to marry, that is fine. You are a blessed daughter of Zion whether you are married or not. I am referring to a single lady who has the desire to marry. 

Within a reasonable time, she should receive several suitors, meet her right spouse, make a right choice with the help of the Holy Spirit, and get married.

God clearly says it nothing evil, no sickness, no temptation comes from him.

This is the last of a 4-part series

(c) 2013, Aziza Uko. This work is the original work of the author and copyrighted. It may not be reproduced in part or in whole in any form without the permission of the author and proper acknowledgement.


by Aziza Uko

Read the first part of this 4-part series HERE and the 2nd part HERE

Question #4:
Does God intentionally delay our blessing or answers to our prayers to deliver them at his own time?

There is no Bible verse whatsoever to support this belief. I have heard famous TV pastors say that when you pray, God can give three answers - yes, no, or not now. This is not in line with scriptures or what Jesus Christ taught us about prayer. Jesus said:

“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” Mark 11:24-25 (NIV)

Forgiveness is absolutely important… forgive those who wrong you. Don’t wish them evil or pray evil back to them in prayers. Forgive them. Unforgiveness is one of the leading causes of delayed miracles. Forgive, forgive, forgive.

Jesus Christ also said:

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.” Matthew 7:7-11 (NIV)

Then he went on to show us the nature of our Heavenly Father in a very powerful comparison:

“Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” Matthew 7:7-11 (NIV)

Jesus Christ also promised in John 14:13-14, John 15:7, John 15:16, Matthew 18:18-19:

“And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.” (NIV)

“If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.” (NIV)

“You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you.” (NIV)

“Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be[a] bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be[b] loosed in heaven.”

“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.”

Note the blanket nature of Jesus pronouncements. He didn’t say when it pleases God or at the appointed time of God. He says ‘whoever’, ‘whatever’, ‘anything’.

2 Peter 3:9 says, “The Lord is not slack concerning [His] promise.”

James 1:13 says, "Let no one say when he is tempted. 'I am being tempted by God'; for God cannot be tempted by evil, and he himself does not tempt anyone."

Why would God say go and come back tomorrow, when he is not broke? When it takes him less than a split second to heal you? When he doesn't have to consult with anyone to bless you? When he owns the entire world and the fullness thereof, why would he keep his own child poor, then give money to drug dealers? (Psalm 24) Why would he deny his child a means of livelihood when He rules in the affairs of men - when he knows that ‘money answers all things’ and you can’t function effectively without money? Why would he deny his child a life-partner (while unbelievers get married, even multiple times) to prove what? Why would he keep you childless? How does that glorify him?

Prayer is another topic in itself. And it is pivotal because it is when people pray and they don't get results that they start looking for a fall-back scripture such as the next commonly misapplied scripture.

This is the 3rd part of a 4-part series. You can read the 4th Part HERE

(c) 2013, Aziza Uko. This work is the original work of the author and copyrighted. It may not be reproduced in part or in whole in any form without the permission of the author and proper acknowledgement.


by Aziza Uko

Read the first part of this 4-part series HERE

Question #2:
Do we determine when we get a blessing in life? In other words, do we have any control over the timing of our miracle?

We absolutely do. The Word of God says that the earth, God has gave to us (not Satan). We lost that dominion to sin, Christ Jesus came to take away our sins and restore our dominion on this earth and he succeeded. We have been restored to God's original plan, the original dominion, the original relationship for man. We are the gods of this world. We rule, we control things. Heaven is open. We just have to take it. (Read: Genesis 1:26-27, Psalm 115:16, Luke 19:10, Colossians 1:19 – 20,
Matt 28:18-20, Job 22:28)

If it is all in God's hands as we have been misled to believe then there would be no need for prayer, faith would have no role to play because whether you believe or not, when God is ready, he will send you your blessing. Whether you pray or not, God's timing supersedes everything.

Let us look at what God says about our power, about our control over what happens.

In Mark 11:24 Jesus says, “Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.”

Job 22:28 says, “
Thou shalt also decree a thing, and it shall be established unto thee: and the light shall shine upon thy ways.”

In Mark 11:23, Jesus Christ said, “For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.”

Isaiah 54:17 says, No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is of Me,” saith the Lord.”

The next verse underscores how relevant we are in the scheme of things:

Amos 3:7 says, “Surely the Lord God will do nothing, unless He revealeth His secret unto His servants the prophets.”

Question #3:
Is there anything we can do to get a miracle when we want it? In other words, is there anything we can do to move heaven on our behalf?

Yes, we do. Let's look at what people in the Bible did to move Heaven on their behalf and set the time for their miracle.

God promised Abraham a son and promised him the son again but the son didn't come. (Read: Genesis 15:1-6, Genesis 17:1-22). Note that God didn’t put a time on it. He never said when he would give Abraham the son, the promised heir. Abraham believed God. Most Christians agree on the importance of faith in receiving from God. So, it cannot be over flogged. Without faith, it is impossible to please God.

Then one day, Abraham received a visit from three men, the Bible says that one of them was the LORD. What did Abraham do? With haste, he told his wife to quickly prepare bread, he selected the best sheep, killed it, made a rich meal, and presented it to the angels. He made a sacrifice to God. And then the following conversation happened:

And they said to him, Where is Sarah your wife? And he said, [She is here] in the tent.
10 [The Lord] said, I will surely return to you when the season comes round, and behold, Sarah your wife will have a son. And Sarah was listening and heard it at the tent door which was behind Him.
11 Now Abraham and Sarah were old, well advanced in years; it had ceased to be with Sarah as with [young] women. [She was past the age of childbearing].
12 Therefore Sarah laughed to herself, saying, After I have become aged shall I have pleasure and delight, my lord (husband), being old also?
13 And the Lord asked Abraham, Why did Sarah laugh, saying, Shall I really bear a child when I am so old?
14 Is anything too hard or too wonderful for the Lord? At the appointed time, when the season [for her delivery] comes around, I will return to you and Sarah shall have borne a son. (Amplified Bible)
He received God, he made haste, he choose his best, he sacrificed it, he presented it to God. He moved God to set a time for his miracle. Even when Sarah laughed at the Word, God restated his promise and it came to pass.  (Read Genesis 18:1-16)

She was a childless wife in a polygamous marriage. Every year, she went up to Shiloh with her husband , co-wife, and children to sacrifice and worship the LORD.  This particular year, she not only sacrificed and worshiped, but she prayed fervently, she made a vow onto the LORD, and the priest Eli, made a pronouncement on her request.

Note the 4 elements, the last 3 – fervent prayers, a vow, and a pronouncement from the priest were the new things that happened that year and Hannah got her miracle. (Read: 1 Samuel 1)

King Hezekiah
Hezekiah was a King of Judah and he was ill to the point of death. The LORD sent Isaiah the prophet to tell him that his time had come for him to die. Hezekiah turned his face to the wall, and he prayed fervently, he asked God to bring to remembrance his faithfulness. And an immediately, God told Isaiah to go back with a new message, God had heard him, God had answered his prayer, the prophet set the time for his healing, and gave an instruction on what should be done and God added 15 years to the king. Note the 3 things Hezekiah did – he turned his face to the wall (away from all that was around him), he prayed fervently. (Read: 2 Kings 20:1-11)

The Shunammite Woman
There was an unnamed woman who was childless who showed kindness to the servant of God, the Prophet Elisha. She provided him and his servant with lodging when they passed by her town because she perceived him to be ‘a holy man of God’. So one day, Elisha asked what could be done for her. His servant noted that she was childless and her husband was old. And the Prophet invited her and said:
14 Later Elisha said, What then is to be done for her? Gehazi answered, She has no child and her husband is old.
15 He said, Call her. [Gehazi] called her, and she stood in the doorway.
16 Elisha said, At this season when the time comes round, you shall embrace a son. She said, No, my lord, you man of God, do not lie to your handmaid.
17 But the woman conceived and bore a son at that season the following year, as Elisha had said to her.
Note: She gave something to a man of God because she perceived him to be a ‘holy man of God’, she sacrificed and the man of God set a time for her miracle. (Read: 2 Kings 4:8-37)

If you do what these people did, you get the miracle they got. God is not partial. If you receive God into your life, you sacrifice (animal sacrifice is not done in Christianity, you sacrifice your life as a living sacrifice, you sacrifice your time, talent, and your resources to the Work of God, let the Holy Spirit lead you when it comes to what and where to sacrifice), you pray fervently (take God’s Word back to him, be fervent, talk to God, forget enemies, talk to your Father), believe. You will get your miracle. 

This is the 2nd of a 4-part series. You may read the 3rd part HERE and the 4th Part HERE

(c) 2013, Aziza Uko. This work is the original work of the author and copyrighted. It may not be reproduced in part or in whole in any form without the permission of the author and proper acknowledgement.


by Aziza Uko

This message is derived from 4 questions which are frequently asked in the Body of Christ.

1. Does God determine when we get a blessing in life?

2. Do we determine when we get a blessing in life? In other words, do we have any control over the timing of our miracle?

3. Is there anything we can do to get a miracle when we want it?

4. Does God intentionally delay our blessing or answers to our prayers to deliver them at his own time?

I have come to realize the power of our minds. Once we are taught a particular thing and tune our mindset accordingly, it takes a conscious effort to re-tune our mind and re-tune it. (Read: Proverbs 23:7, Proverbs 4:23, Romans 12:2)

I also know that many Christians believe so many wrong things and because of that we suffer needlessly. The only reason given in the Bible for why a Christian would suffer is her ignorance. That is all. The devil can't torment a Christian; he can't attack you with sickness, disease, poverty, and so on. God will also not inflict pain and suffering on you. The only reason given in scripture for a Christian to suffer bad things is ignorance and the only thing that can set a Christian free is knowing the truth.

Hosea 4:6 says, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.”

Isaiah 5:13 says, “Therefore my people are gone into captivity, because they have no knowledge: and their honourable men are famished, and their multitude dried up with thirst.”

I used to be a victim of wrong teachings and I suffered so many times, terrible pain till I came in contact with the scriptural truth concerning my life and my destiny in God. I didn't go for any deliverance, in fact, I stopped intense fasting when I realised the truth about fasting. My prayers became shorter, simpler, straight to the point, and unbelievably effective - when I received the truth contained in the scriptures concerning my relationship with my Heavenly Father.

Since, I received this liberating message, I have dedicated my life to using my talent (ability to communicate) to teach fellow Christians what I know so they too might be set free.

Why this lengthy preamble? Testimonies are powerful. They liberate. Also, so that some people would be able to understand why I take time to write so much on a forum like this. Also, so people whom this teaching may concern won't feel like they are being 'attacked' Not so, this is about liberty.

The only person under attack when wrong teachings are being corrected is the devil. He is the father of lies. The Bible says that the ONLY tool he has left is tricks. Nothing more. He has no power. When Jesus rose from the dead, he declared, "All power in heaven and on earth has been given unto me. Go in my name." The devil just has tricks. (Read: Matthew 28:18 John 8:44, Matthew 24:24, Ephesians 6:11, Psalm 62:11, 2 Peter 5:11-13)

An example of his tricks is that many Christians think he is a strong lion that can take anybody down. He is no lion. The Bible says he goes around like a, like a, like a (repeated for emphasis) roaring lion seeking whom to devour. The only lion in the Bible is the Lion of the Tribe of Judah. (1 Peter 5:8, Revelations 5:5)

The devil is so defeated, so defeated, disgraced, messed up by Jesus Christ that he doesn't want you to realize that, hence he goes about trying to trick you.

And among Christians, his number one tool is twisting the Word of God, changing a word or two so that you will be led to believe wrong things. The moment you start believing a wrong thing, you begin to suffer in the order of your beliefs. Just in the same way that the moment you fall in line with the Word of God, you begin to walk in the order of the Giver of the Word.

Why does the devil try to twist God's Word and lead you to believe wrong things? He knows that he has no power over you. He knows the only way you can be destroyed is if you destroy yourself. And how will he get you to do that? He knows that as you think, so you are. So he tries to plant all kinds of wrong things in your mind. He sends out wrong preachers to send a wrong message even planting his agents in churches to fabricate testimonies that aren’t rooted in scriptures.

So, my sister, please open up your mind and ask for the Holy Spirit to teach you what you should know and what you should unlearn. Just open up your mind and if I am unable to show you from the scriptures what I teach, then you are free to reject it and move on. (Read: John 16:13)

As Christians, if someone teaches you something and it is not backed up with scriptures. You will not accept it. So, the devil twists one or two scriptures to back up a preconceived wrong teaching. Because he knows that once we are led to believe a wrong thing, it acts as a stronghold in our minds and our mind, is our life. The stronghold mentioned in the spiritual warfare in the Bible is in the mind, it is not a tree in your village. It is not a wicked boss who is sitting on your promotion or a wicked step-mom that swore you won't ever get married. It is a wrong belief in your mind. (Ephesians 6)

So, let us answer the 4 questions from the scriptures.

Question #1:
Does God determine when we get a blessing in life?

Every good and perfect gift comes from above. God causes the sun to shine on the good and the bad. God is the one who blesses us. He is the Great Provider. Children are a reward from Him. He daily fills our mouths with good things. He prepares a table before us in the presence of our enemies. He gives us power to make wealth. He feeds us. He clothes us. He provides all our needs according to his riches and glory. There is no denying that our blessings come from God. (Read: James 1:17, Matthew 5:45, Deuteronomy 28:2, Psalm 127, Psalms 103:3-5, Deuteronomy 8:18, Psalm 23, Psalm 81:10, Psalm 84:11, Psalm 113:9, Genesis 33:5, Psalm 128:1-6, Galatians 3:29, Galatians 3:9, John 10:10, John 8:44, Deuteronomy 7:14,Exodus 23:26, Jeremiah 29:11, Psalm 75:6, Ephesians 2:10, Psalm 37:4, Psalm 5:12, Job 22:28, Genesis 39:21, Exodus 11:3, Joshua 11:20, Psalm 35:27, Luke 6:38, 2 Corinthians 9:6-11, 3 John 2, Psalms 118:23-25, Nehemiah 5:1-13, Romans 13:8, Mark 11:24, Malachi 3:10-12, Isaiah 48:17, Philippians 4:19, Matthew 6:25-33, John 15:7, Deuteronomy 28:1-14, Ephesians 3:20, Galatians 6:9, Joel 2:25-26, Matthew 6:1, Psalms 84:11, Deuteronomy 6:11. The promises of God in the Bible are so many.)

All these verses tell us where and what, but they don't say when. He puts no limits to our blessings - he says till we are filled. Till we have no more room to store his blessings. That tells us that God's gives us a blank cheque. A blank cheque is signed by the account holder and the bearer (the receiver) has the responsibility of filling in the name, amount, and date and present it to the bank for payment.

This message is the first of a 4-part series. You can read the 2nd Part HERE, the 3rd Part HERE, and the 4th Part HERE

(c) 2013, Aziza Uko. This work is the original work of the author and copyrighted. It may not be reproduced in part or in whole in any form without the permission of the author and proper acknowledgement.